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A Guide to Terminology as used by Western Males of the Species



Prude - a woman who won’t fuck you

Dyke - a woman who won’t fuck you because you have a penis

Slut - a woman who fucks other people and not you

Tease - a woman who won’t fuck you even though she smiled at you

Feminist - a woman who won’t fuck you because she has, like, thoughts and stuff

Bitch - a woman who treats you the same as you treat women


When little black girls, especially little black dark skin girls, enter this world it is very clear, the rules are made very aware, who is beautiful, and valued, and who is not. Simply because we are black, simply because we are not white, we are deemed inferior, unintelligent, and ugly. 

You would rather paint your white women brown, then dare allow a black woman exist and be deemed as beautiful. It is not our place to be called beautiful unless there is a catch, unless there is an asterisk. “You’re pretty!*” 

*for a black girl 

You will spend money tanning, but call black women monkeys and ‘dirty’, our hair styles are ghetto, till your magazine has a step by step tutorial on how to achieve the same look, so it’s not ghetto, it’s just ghetto on us. It ‘works’ on you. 

We are taught certain rules when we are young, ‘You look so much prettier with straight hair!’ ‘Oh, thank god she light skin,’ ‘Don’t stay out in the sun you’ll look burnt,’ ‘Yeah but that hair isn’t professional-‘ 

We are taught to hide, to assimilate, to be close to whiteness because whiteness is acceptable and we are not. We get these rules as children. So to grow up, learning and adapting to these rules, and then seeing white people praised for stealing our culture, our dress,

if a photo of us dressed like that appeared on the news, people would say any injustice we faced, was deserved, ‘look at them, dressed like that.’

But you can wear it, freely, without judgement, without risk. No one would say you deserved to die. No one would give your killer half of a million dollars, as basically a congratulations, a pat on the back, for murdering you. 

Just our natural being is a threat to you, we are born villains to you. We possess this great threat, but at the same time, you look down on us, expect us to be stupid, low class, dirty… we are not on your level, you still see us as your servants in your culture, but pretend to be the gods in ours. 

It’s confusing. It’s confusing to be a black woman, to be made a joke, and all the punch lines, our hair, skin tone, lips, body… you try to imitate, but it’s not that, it isn’t, it’s our very existence that’s a joke to you. And if you are white, and reading this, and offended, 

Fuck you. 

Fuck you, fuck your whole ancestry line, and fuck your future generations. 

top image from here 




submitter: *skip to 3:12* I was at my first Beyoncé concert and some guy was holding a really rude sign saying “You can’t sing” so during crazy in love she hit her note early and told him to hit the same note and he butchered it then she walked away and said ‘exactly’. She played it off as casual for the cameras but everyone in the crowd was dying laughing cause we knew

Don’t try Bey…EVER
She wins and proves EVERY TIME



Anonymous asked:

is it possible to be triggered by pretty people? i have body dysmorphia and anorexia, and whenever i see pictures of models/"perfect" looking people it sends me into this huge spiral of self-loathing where i feel like i don't deserve food for not being as beautiful as them. but it also seems unfair to label other people's bodies as triggering - i mean, they can't help how they look either and they're real people too. i feel guilty and dumb for my reaction and then hate myself more for it.


It is absolutely possible to be triggered by people who are conventionally attractive, and you don’t need to feel guilty or ashamed of yourself for having that response. Some version of the response you have—feelings of self-loathing and shame—is actually the intended effect of American advertising and cultural beauty norms. The more we hate our bodies, the more beauty products, weight-loss programs, and other products corporations can sell. People literally profit from self-hatred and suffering of this type, so they’re highly invested in intensifying it and forcing it on us in every aspect of our lives, from supermarket checkout lanes to television. 

You’re right, it’s no one’s fault for looking the way they do. But in terms of photos of models and mainstream actors, their faces and bodies ARE modified via makeup and photoshop to look even more unrealistically “perfect” than they are in real life. So it may in fact be someone’s fault that they’re so unachievably flawless in the way they’re presented by the media. (If you’re curious, look up the effects of photoshop in mainstream media. The before-and-after comparisons are shocking.)

I’m not trying to minimize your experience in any way by saying this. My point is that (sadly) there’s nothing weird or unusual about the way you feel, and it’s certainly not your fault. 

Yes, it can be problematic to say that other people’s bodies are “triggering.” But the problem with it is not anybody’s feelings about certain bodies, it’s what we do with those feelings. For example, it would not be ideal if you were to start making posts hating on other people’s bodies or saying hurtful things to people who look that way. But it’s absolutely okay for you to have whatever feelings you have and to set boundaries for yourself around them. If you have to look at the ceiling when confronted by all the magazines at the store, you can. If you want to block or unfollow any tumblr that posts photos of models or actors, you can. If you want to ask your friends to tag such posts so you can avoid seeing them, that’s a valid request to make. There’s nothing wrong with taking care of yourself in those ways. 

I’m sorry you’re struggling with this. I’ve struggled with it too, and it used to make me want to restrict my eating as well. You’ve got my sympathies, believe me. 

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